What Is Self-Care Really—and Why It Matters More Than You Think
As a therapist who supports high-achieving women and busy moms, I hear it all the time:
“I know I should practice self-care, but I don’t have time.”
Or, “Self-care just feels like another item on my to-do list.”
Let’s clear something up: self-care is not indulgent. It's essential. It’s the foundation for your emotional, physical, and mental well-being—and it’s one of the most powerful tools we have to prevent burnout, boost resilience, and reconnect with ourselves.
What Is Self-Care?
Self-care is any intentional action you take to care for your whole self. That includes your body, mind, and spirit. It's not just bubble baths and spa days (though those can be lovely); it’s also setting boundaries, asking for help, saying “no” when needed, and tuning into what you truly need—not just what others expect of you.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, self-care is about taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical and mental health. When done consistently, it helps you manage stress, reduce anxiety, and prevent emotional exhaustion.
Why It’s So Important
Without self-care, we run the risk of burnout—a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion brought on by prolonged stress. Burnout doesn’t just affect how you feel; it impacts your ability to show up as your best self in relationships, at work, and even in parenting.
Especially for high-achievers and caregivers, the line between being productive and being depleted can get blurry. That’s why self-care isn’t optional—it’s a necessity.
Signs You Might Need More Self-Care:
You’re feeling constantly tired, even after resting
You’re more irritable or anxious than usual
You feel disconnected from your body or emotions
You’re overwhelmed by simple tasks
You’re avoiding people, decisions, or responsibilities
Simple Ways to Practice Self-Care
Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Start small and stay consistent. Here are a few ideas:
Emotional Self-Care
Journaling your thoughts or feelings
Talking with a trusted friend or therapist
Practicing self-compassion and mindfulness
Physical Self-Care
Prioritizing rest and sleep
Moving your body in ways that feel good
Nourishing yourself with balanced meals
Mental Self-Care
Setting healthy boundaries
Saying “no” without guilt
Taking breaks from social media or screens
Spiritual Self-Care
Spending time in nature
Reflecting through prayer or meditation
Connecting with your values and purpose
Where to Begin: Take a Self-Care Assessment
Sometimes, we don’t even realize where we’re lacking care until we pause to reflect. I recommend taking the Self-Care Assessment Worksheet from Therapist Aid. It’s a free, printable resource that helps you evaluate your current self-care habits across multiple domains.
👉 Download the Self-Care Assessment
Once you've completed it, take a few minutes to notice any patterns. What areas feel strong? Where might you give yourself more support? This reflection can be a powerful first step toward sustainable change.
Final Thoughts
Self-care is not selfish. It’s not weak. And it’s not a luxury. It’s one of the most empowering choices you can make—not just for your own well-being, but for the people you care about. You deserve to feel nourished, balanced, and whole. Start small. Start today. Your future self will thank you.
Need support in building a sustainable self-care routine that actually fits your life?
I’d love to help. Schedule a 15-minute consultation to see if counseling is the right fit for you.
